I just returned from having been in Denver for the past couple of days for a work-related conference. I was at a hotel right downtown - Denver is a beautiful city! From my hotel room I was able watch the sun rise over the Rocky Mountains.
Tuesday evening two colleagues and I were walking downtown on our way to a restaurant for dinner. They were a few paces ahead of me, which must have made it appear as though I was strolling down the street by myself. There was a guy a couple of steps behind me, talking on his cell phone, so I wasn't really paying much attention to him. He evidently was paying attention to me though, because he caught up to me and asked me if I knew of any good sushi restaurants in the city. (Side note: sushi to me = grossness. Sorry Jess.)
I was kind of taken aback, and told the guy that I didn't know of any place, because this was my first time in the city. He then asked where I was from and I told him I was from Detroit and here for work. He attempted to continue the conversation, and it quickly became apparent he was not that interested in finding a sushi restaurant. By this time I sort of brushed him off though and caught up with my coworkers.
So here's my thoughts on the situation. First, he was a decent-looking fellow, which made the experience more pleasant than if he had been creepy looking. Second, I do have to wonder at a person's ability to just go up to a perfect stranger and not only start talking with them but hitting on them as well. Which leads to my third thought...and I'm wondering if there are any other women out there who feel like this...but the entire experience (all 30 seconds of it) was kind of flattering. If the guy had been creepy or acting inappropriately, I would feel different, but as it is it kind of made me feel good to think that he thought me attractive enough to hit on. Who knows - maybe he really is a jerk and was just looking for a quick thrill. I like to believe he wasn't though.
So to those of you who are wondering why I brushed him off...my question to you is, would you have preferred I went to dinner in an unknown city with an unknown man? Because that seems like a great idea to me. Besides, he was looking for sushi. It would have never worked.
5 comments:
you could have gone to dinner with your coworkers and him!! And tried sushi--yum yum. I actually had some california rolls for lunch today!
ha, i'm glad you brushed him off, but i understand about feeling flattered. i'm married (very happily in fact) and i am still a little flattered when a guy i don't know holds a door open for me, when the valet guy at the hospital makes sure to say good night and have a good evening to me, or when the mcdonald's guy gives me extra fries. my ring clearly deters any obvious flirtation (except for creepy guys who i avoid), but when a man appreciates that i'm a woman and does something polite (and appropriate) i feel nice. i think that's normal. at least i hope so.
Well Amanda, I already know that you are a good looking intellegent woman so why wouldn't some guy hit on you. That's quite something comming from you mom, huh? Oh, by the way I glad you went to dinner with the co-workers.
I would have brushed him off if I were you too-not only for safety reasons but for reputation reasons. If you are there on business and you are with other professionals, it doesn't look all that good to be going out and "hooking up" while there on business. You are totally hot though, he probably just couldn't resist your blue eyes.
andy says there's a fine line between pursuing and stalking... thus the, "i was flattered, but might not have been if he was creepy looking." it's pretty much all about perception and if you appreciate someone's advances or not.
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